No matter what plan I used, it would work while I was in it, and then, months later, when I went “back to normal”, the weight would creep back on. Have you been there? Yep. It happens all the time. One day I realized why this kept happening. What I found quite honestly has been a game changer.
That one thing: COMMITMENT.
Sure, when you did that plan or diet you were committed while you were doing it. But what happened after? Once the protein powder and frozen fruit for your smoothies was gone, you just kept going without a goal. So the question really is :
Where are you going?
What are you committed to?
What is true commitment? I can tell you that the only thing I have ever been truly committed to consistently is my marriage and my children. When I said yes to that marriage proposal back in 2002 on that beautiful evening in Maui, I remember asking him “Are you sure”? I know, romantic, right? We laugh about it now, but I know exactly why I said it. To me, my commitment was strong. I knew that I would work every day with that goal of a strong marriage in my heart. I was completely in it for the long haul. But all those times that I dieted? I was only fully committed until I got the result I wanted – then, I just stopped. Life is flow and energy and we are constantly moving. Once I dropped the goals and commitment, then what happened? I fell back into old habits.
Back to commitment. What have you ever committed to fully? No matter what happened, you kept your eye on the prize and kept moving forward, right? Take the general “Lose Weight” goal. It’s great – but what happens when you get there? What happens when you achieve your goal? You need to change your commitment. Once you go back to old thinking and old habits, you will go back to your old weight.
But, check this out. What if you paid attention? What if you had truly engaging conversation with yourself every day – checked in where you are at and where you are going? Just like the GPS you will get exactly where you need to be. Most GPS systems update during your trip. It might change the route due to traffic that will slow you down. Wait a minute. What? You are still going to the same place, but the way you are going has changed. Genius!!
Every once in a while I need to refocus and commit to myself again. The stresses of daily life, a house, kids, other commitments, can take their toll and leave my needs lying in the dust. I journal and refocus. I make those non-negotiable work-out appointments. I take baths. I eat mindfully and drink my water with lemon. I call friends, yes, on the phone. I reconnect with me and with those who matter to me. I make sure all the things I need for a balanced life are there.
So here it is my friend, what are you committed to for yourself today? What are you doing and prioritizing right now in order to keep that momentum going? Whether it is your health or working on relationships, there is always constant work to be done. What are you paying attention to? What needs more attention?