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This week is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.  This topic hits very close to my heart, as I suffered silently and alone for a very long time with self hatred and disordered eating for most of my young adult life.  Eating disorders do not discriminate.  Eating disorders can affect anyone, no matter the race, age, gender or sexuality. 

The focus on positive body image and self-love and acceptance is a constant theme for this blog.  When writing a piece, or even just a Facebook post, I ask myself these two questions:

How will this make the moms that read my blog feel about themselves?  

 

If my daughter read this, would it make her appreciate her body? 

My heart centered vision is that all mothers and daughters open that dialogue and talk about food struggles and self-love.  It can be difficult these days with such a focus on air brushed magazine photos and constant news segments on weight loss.

Maybe you don’t have daughters.  You can open that dialogue with friends.  Anyone can be struggling with these issues, usually silently.  Begin to create a space where the women, men, and children in your life can feel empowered and motivated to talk about food with a healthy attitude.  Schedule ladies’ nights that aren’t entirely about food.  Don’t diet – the scale is certainly not the best indicator of health, and constantly limiting food in an attempt to lose weight will only backfire on you.  Learn about gentle nutrition, like that of Intuitive Eating

When it comes to health, well being and a focus on health body image need to be in the forefront. 

 

Here a few other resources to check out for more information:

PROUD 2 B MEAn online community for teens promoting positive body image.

PARENT’S TOOLKITPDF DOWNLOAD

NEDAWARENESS.ORG 

NATIONAL EATING DISORDERS.ORG

NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MEDICINE – EATING DISORDERS

 

If you are someone you love is in need of treatment for an eating disorder, know that you are not alone.  Go to :FIND SUPPORT

 

With much love,

Gina

 

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How to Mindfully Give Something Up

I remember as a young girl in Catholic school giving up chocolate or cake every year for Lent.  The memories of craving that thing even more, simply because I couldn’t have it, are also quite vivid. That being said, I never made it the full 40 days without breaking it, or completely bingeing on that thing I had planned on giving up.

As a child I couldn’t explain why that would happen.  My intentions were good.  But, just like asking my parents for something, only to be told no, I would stomp my foot, roll my eyes, and then want whatever it was that I couldn’t have even more. 

It is that time of year where many of the mom friends on my Facebook timeline are giving up and sacrificing things for Lent.  The list includes chocolate, desserts, wine, alcohol, and even Facebook.  But is it possible to quit something as alluring as your favorite daily piece of dark chocolate for 40 days, all without your inner brat stomping her foot and intensely craving that thing even more?

Insert:  MINDFULNESS

First things first:  

Why are you giving up what you are giving up?

In the Christian tradition, the “giving up something” part of Lent has to do with sacrificing something you enjoy up to God.   But what if you are not Christian and want to give up something for your health at any time of the year?  Maybe you want to give up sugar or alcohol, simply because you have noticed how it makes you feel crappy afterwards.  No matter your reason for “giving up” a food, or anything else, it is your “WHY” that is the key to whether you stick with it, or stomp away and sneak some of whatever it is.

Here it goes mommas – your little guide to sticking with your good intentions this year (and for many years to come!)  This mindfulness process can apply to anything you are setting a goal for – whether it be sticking with a healthier food plan, or giving up your daily glass (or 2, or 3…) of wine each night.

Break it down into easy steps and you will see the map to reach your goal.  In the end, your get to savor the feeling of an accomplished goal, and perhaps a big slice of chocolate cake.

 

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Boom.  You have got this.

By now you know that I don’t believe in diets or deprivation.  When it comes to giving up a particular food or item in the name of your personal faith, or with the objective of mindful self-care, it is possible to cut things out of your daily food list and not fall into bingeing or yo-yo dieting type eating.  Keep in mind your INTENTION and WHY and remember that you are unstoppable.

 

In health & happiness,

Gina

How I Went From Junk Food Eater to Veggie Lover

When I graduated high school, I worked at a fast food restaurant.  Lunch breaks were notably a quick clocking out and grabbing of food. My preference was cheeseburgers wrapped in yellowy-paper  (usually 2 of them) , a large order of fries, and a brightly colored orange drink.  This went on for months and months.  At that time, I suffered from severe mood swings and extremely painful headaches.  Vegetables?  Ha.  I really didn’t eat any at all.  The thought  of eating anything green, except for a pickle slice on my burger, simply put, grossed me out.

My mom cooked real food.  But I just didn’t want it.  The other stuff  tasted so good to me.  Years went by and I was thrown into the world of healthy food, or just “REAL FOOD”.  Simply prepared and utterly delicious. I found that slightly steamed broccoli with a drizzle of olive oil and some salt and pepper was amazingly divine.  When I make fresh green beans, it’s funny how my kids crowd the bowl and pick at them way before dinner is served.  What’s the green bean secret?  A short steaming, a drizzle of olive and butter, salt and garlic pepper. 

How did this Fast-Food-Junk-Eating-Girl go from that to Vegetable Foodie?  By paying attention. 

Sorry. It really is that easy. 

I began to see how the crappy way I felt was directly linked to what I was eating.

I know that you know that you are supposed to eat vegetables, but you just can’t fathom how to include them.  No worries pretty lady – I am here to help you with that! 

First, here’s a few tips I want you to keep in mind:

  • Don’t stress.  Go to the market and take a look at the produce.  While I want you to know what GMO and Organic mean, don’t dismiss purchasing something just because you cannot find the organic version.  If something looks good, just buy it.
  • Think outside the box.  Fresh food tastes better than in a can or box.  It is very easy and economical to prepare simple and healthy dishes based on fresh vegetables.
  • Think vegetable first, then add the protein.  Stop thinking that a big hunk of meat has to be the star of your dinner plate show.  I’m not saying to not eat meat – simply put it to the side and create dishes based on what’s fresh, in-season, or just looks great in the produce section of your supermarket.
  • Try something new.  Maybe you don’t like the mushy green beans from a can that your Mom used to make you (sorry Mom!) But cooking fresh vegetables in a new way can maybe get you to change your mind on something you thought you didn’t like.  Check out this chart to see if you can fit in some more veggies throughout the day:

 

 

 

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The possibilities are endless, and it truly only takes a few minutes of planning ahead.  Make your day delicious and make sure to let me know how it goes!

 

In health & happiness,

Gina

February Challenge

#loveyourselfie2015

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Last month was about clean eating for us here at jerseygirlorganic.  THIS month – FEBRUARY is about loving yourself – down to your core – every bit and piece of your beautiful self.  This month is all about taking the “selfie” pic and turning it into an introspective and self loving photo.  Pure and natural, or all done up.  That is up to.  I believe that the world is not as narcissistic as everyone thinks it is.  I believe that women are yearning for more :  MORE love, MORE connection, MORE deeper knowing and feeling of that love. 

My question to you is this:   have you really looked at yourself?  Do you really know her? Other than a quick glance at the mirror while slapping on mascara in the morning?

Let’s see what happens when you pull down the wall and really look… and love….

 

XOXO,

Gina

 

Post your pics on FB, Instagram or Twitter with #loveyourselfie2015 – c’mon – bring it!!

Make It Happen

 

REPOST FROM  August 16, 2013

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Ok, so what is your plan?

You have been complaining about not sleeping well.

Your pants are too tight.

You feel sluggish all day long, despite that large coffee you are walking around with, which by-the-way you were hoping would wake you up.

Oh, wait – you don’t have a plan?

I hate to break it to you, but without a plan and the right mindset, change will never happen.

I know, you’re tired and not ready to diet again.  Short-term diets don’t work- but healthy lifestyle changes do.  Here is what you do:

  • Eat healthy meals based on vegetables, lean proteins, healthy fats and a bit of whole grains.

  • Drink water.

  • Move your body most days of the week in a form of exercise you enjoy.

  • Set short term goals and plan for treat days (don’t call them cheat days).

That is it, seriously.  Sounds easy enough, right?  The truth is, it is easy and becomes habit if your head is in the right place.  This is where your mindset comes in.

Simply put, your MINDSET is the fixed mental attitude which will predetermine your responses and interpretations of any given situation.

What does that mean?  That means that your success, your happiness, your health begin in your head. 

Are you that person who grumbles through the day feeling the glass is always half empty?  Do you post on Facebook at midnight complaining about how you cannot sleep? Or Tweet during the day about how things never go your way?  This stems from mindset, not personality as some would venture to say.

How do you change?  I won’t say it’s a one-and-done simple thing – it’s daily habits.   But it can be done.  Here is a great way to start:

  • Wake up and find 3 things to be grateful for today.  Sit for a moment with your calendar/to-do-list/whatever you use to plan your day and look at your day.  Take a few minutes to envision your day running exactly how you want.  Do you want to know a secret of the truly successful people?  The most successful people do not view bumps in the road or roadblocks as “problems”, they view them as just another part of the day.  Not negatively.  Stuff happens. Life goes on.

If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Michael Jordan

  • Set an intention each day.  It could be simple, like aiming to be compassionate all day.  Or, to commit to sitting with a problem for 10 minutes before making a decision.  By doing so, you are making that decision with thought, not just reacting to a situation.  In other words, by living a more mindful life, not a quick knee-jerk-reactive one, you can reside in a place of positive action, not moaning and groaning.

“The act of speaking our intentions aloud shifts them from wishful thinking into action.”
― Michael Thomas Sunnarborg,
21 Days to Better Balance: Find More Balance in a Busy World

The truth is, whether it is healthy lifestyle changes or being more successful in your career, your life is what you make of it – daily habits build up.  The most important habit is those little words that speak in your head, if they constantly say things like “I can’t do this”, “I feel crappy”, “This will never work”, then you have created those things in your life. Don’t wait until Monday to begin – do it today.  Grab your coffee, sit for a few minutes and create the healthy & good life you want.  I can’t wait to hear what you are up to!!!

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In health & wellness,

Gina